You may have never thought of it this way but confidence is a gift. Here’s how I know. Not everyone has it. Some folks, particularly writers can do the exact same thing. One gains confidence and the other has anything but. There is nothing like facing something in your writing career feeling confident. The good news is that you don’t have to sit and hope that someone will wrap some and put it under the Christmas tree for you to open on Christmas morning. You can give yourself the gift of confidence. Here’s how: Look for and acknowledge the improvements you make. You’re not getting worse at writing. You’re getting better. Even a small improvement should stand out in your mind. Don’t compare yourself. Comparing yourself to a Pulitzer Prize […]
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About Reba J. Hoffman
Reba J. Hoffman is a natural encourager and Member Care Coach at My Book Therapy. She has a PhD in clinical counseling and is the founder and president of New Hope Institute of Counseling. Reba uses her gift of encouragement to help writers overcome negative emotions so they can live their dream of being a writer. Her works appear in publications such as Running for the Woman’s Soul by Road Runner Sports and The Good Fight by Donna Hicken. She is the author of Dare to Dream, a Writer’s Journal published by My Book Therapy. She also publishes a motivational and encouraging blog, FindingTrue North. Contact her at reba@mybooktherapy.com.Author Archive | Reba J. Hoffman
Setting up for Success, Part 2: The Nitty Gritty Four Steps
There are those people who love to plan. They have all sorts of color coded steps for each rung of the ladder they want to climb, what time to take the step, what to wear while they’re stepping and what to eat the night before to ensure the maximum V02 output to achieve maximum thrust on the motion. Dizzy yet? Yeah, me too! Listen. Having a successful 2013 really boils down to four simple steps. If you follow them faithfully, you’ll run a victory lap at the end of the race to the applause of a cheering crowd. Here it is. The PDMI process. P: Plan. Yeah you have to. We’ve talked in the last two weeks about keeping it simple. If you need more coaching on how to do […]
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Setting Up For Success, Part 1: Planning to Win!
We are getting down to the last few days of the year. Know what that means? Well, yes, there will be parties, gifts, over the river and through the woods to grandmother’s house we go. In fact, that’s what most of us are focused on. Yet, just hours after all that tradition draws to a close, we usher in a brand new year. If you want to be successful in 2013—and who wouldn’t, right?—you would be wise to put some things in place now to make certain you reach your goals. Winston Churchill said it best: Fail to plan and you plan to fail. In fact, chances are there will be some readers of this blog who will say, “I’ll read this blog post later, when I have more time.” […]
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Dealing With Disappointment: Part 4: By the Bootstraps
We’ve come a long way in these last few weeks. I know some of you have received wonderful news of an offer from an agent or editor. Others have new contracts. Sadly, some received disappointing news. We’ve talked a lot about that. Hopefully, you’ve been able to put some of my suggestions in place to help you through that emotion. When dealing with disappointment—or any negative emotion—there comes a time when we just have to pick ourselves up by the boot straps and move on. Easier said than done. I get that. I really do, but at some point, you’re only hurting yourself if you don’t. Here are a few things to keep in mind as decide to move on. 1) Leave it in the history books. Regardless of how […]
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