One of the greatest disappointment challenges we face as writers is that of self-esteem. If your great story is rejected, criticized or questioned, it can eat away at your sense of self worth until you conclude you’re a bad person. It’s important that you love the one you’re with: YOU! You’re with you more than anyone on the planet…yes even Aunt Bessie who follows you into the bathroom. You have to guard your beliefs so that rejection doesn’t equal bad person. It’s a common malady but there are things you can do to help. Here are what I consider the top five: Hold a pity party! No, you didn’t misread that. For 11 minutes and 43 seconds, party hearty. Mumble and grumble about how unfair life is and how disappointed […]
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Dealing With Disappointment, Part 2: Why Don’t I Feel Better?
Remember in the Sound of Music when after all the Von Trapp children did everything to overcome their disappointment after discovering Maria had returned to the Abby? They sang and tried to brave their feelings only to have the smallest one, Gretta, utter in despair, “Why don’t I feel better?” That same sigh is all too common when writers are disappointed. Even when they try to grin and bear it, they still wind up with a heavy hearts. Your hopes lifted your spirits to an all-time high, only to toss you out of the plane without a parachute. When you plummeted back to earth, you emotionally crashed and burned. Please don’t agree with me and stop reading now. Listen to your heart. Fire in your soul, whether it is from […]
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Building Your Tribe, Part 3: Brick and Mortar Not Required
Hopefully by now you understand why you need a tribe. I trust you’ve made the decision to begin building one, or to grow the one you already have. But there is one little gnat buzzing around in the back of your head. It’s the time thing… Again. You say you don’t have time to devote to constructing a successful tribe. You schedule tweets and update Facebook. You sit and wait because you know you’ll soon have to respond or retweet. After all, tribal dynamics require reciprocation. Right? It’s NOT about the thing. Or the task, or the 2×4’s. It’s about the members. You know, those people who just love you and want the best for you? Tribes are relationships, not a hard hat zone with a fence around it. Building […]
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